Philanderers just can’t help it. It’s in their genes – like having blue eyes or brown eyes. So now you know. Great if you are one, but what about those who have to deal with their partner being one. What you will want to know first and foremost is how can you tell if this is something that is a permanent character trait or a passing phase? If it is a temporary situation, what, if anything, can you do to get him to hurry through it whilst keeping your dignity and sanity intact? Should you stay or should you go (and maybe come back when he’s “been there and done that”)? What have others done and does this mean you should do the same?
On the face of it this finding seems like good news for all those shagbags and slapper spices but very bad news for all those (ahem) exposed to them.
But is it an excuse or is it a reason? What other explanations are there for the findings in this apparently casual-sex condoning research? Could it be nature or nurture? That is, is your boyfriend a scoundrel because he inherited it from his dad or is it because he grew up watching the way his dad behaved?
This book aims to explore the possible reasons why people behave in this way, the impact it has on their own lives and those they love. And because we live in the real world I’ll outline how you can spot the warning signs and make an informed decision as to whether you want to have a nibble or potentially bite off more than you can chew.
Are you or do you know someone who would be willing to spend an hour or two discussing your Love Rat experiences with Dr Sandra L Wheatley? If so please do send an email to LoveRats@potentpsychology.com
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